Raise your glasses as I'd like to extend congratulations to Constance-Marie C. James for one full year of abstinence. You go girl!
The first question I was asked was, "Was it hard?" Not particularly. I find it more difficult to disrespect myself, subject my body to possible harm, and intimately share myself with someone who is much less than deserving.
I don't allow my primitive urges to drive my life, and I don't do hook-ups. I've only had intercourse with one person in my life, and that was a decision that I made, not a situation I found myself in. I'd like all my future encounters to happen under the same level consideration.
And they will. I don't understand the 'it just happened' theory. I don't subscribe to the "whatever happens, happens" line of action. I might be the last of a dying breed, but I still think sex is a big deal. I still think that when you have sex with someone, a small part of that person remains with you forever. I still think sex is the highest form of intimacy you could ever experience with someone else. I don't think it's just about physical pleasure, and I don't think making reckless and short-sighted decisions is something that's inherent to being a teenager and should be accepted as so. Unless you plan on dying immediately after your years as a young adult, which I do not, decisions you make now are ones that will live within you for the rest of your life. I'd like to be as proud of my decisions as I possibly can.
And I am.
(I won't pretend that I can take all the credit, though. I did get to a point where I was willing to sleep with someone, but due to extenuating circumstances, did not. I think that was God and the universe telling me that it just wasn't the time. So thank You.)
Here's to another year?
The first question I was asked was, "Was it hard?" Not particularly. I find it more difficult to disrespect myself, subject my body to possible harm, and intimately share myself with someone who is much less than deserving.
I don't allow my primitive urges to drive my life, and I don't do hook-ups. I've only had intercourse with one person in my life, and that was a decision that I made, not a situation I found myself in. I'd like all my future encounters to happen under the same level consideration.
And they will. I don't understand the 'it just happened' theory. I don't subscribe to the "whatever happens, happens" line of action. I might be the last of a dying breed, but I still think sex is a big deal. I still think that when you have sex with someone, a small part of that person remains with you forever. I still think sex is the highest form of intimacy you could ever experience with someone else. I don't think it's just about physical pleasure, and I don't think making reckless and short-sighted decisions is something that's inherent to being a teenager and should be accepted as so. Unless you plan on dying immediately after your years as a young adult, which I do not, decisions you make now are ones that will live within you for the rest of your life. I'd like to be as proud of my decisions as I possibly can.
And I am.
(I won't pretend that I can take all the credit, though. I did get to a point where I was willing to sleep with someone, but due to extenuating circumstances, did not. I think that was God and the universe telling me that it just wasn't the time. So thank You.)
Here's to another year?
